"Shelf-Help" Can Do More Harm Than Good -079
Jun 30, 2020According to government stats, last updated in 2018, there are a lot of unhappy people that are suffering in the world. In the U.S. alone:
- 32 million people suffer from anxiety
- 17 million suffer from depression
- Around 12 million suffer from PTSD
And, according to Forbes magazine, the Self-Help industry generates over $11 billion annually. What I find interesting is that many of the self-help books and videos that get purchased sit on the shelf collecting dust. So for today’s podcast, I wanted to explore this phenomenon and help you get curious about what does work and why. How much time do we have? Not much. So let’s get to it.
And, if my podcast show is the first time you’ve been hearing about the difference between ADHD and executive function skills, you're not alone. If you’re an adult who received a diagnosis of adult ADHD, executive function skills should also have been assessed and discussed with you, in my humble opinion. The odds of having under-developed executive function skills along with ADHD are very high; in fact, almost a given that you will. It's also highly probable that you will have under-developed executive function skills if you've lived with chronic depression, chronic anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illness.
In this episode Dr B talks about:
- How shelf-help can do more harm than good
- The kind of help we need to really advance and heal
- The importance of celebrating your wins
- Enrollment closed for the ADDventures in Achievement program until January 2021.
Developing your Executive Function Skills and shifting your limiting beliefs is the fastest and most effective way to overcome ADHD limitations, find focus, gain confidence, and newfound freedom in your life!
My mission is to put an end to the worldwide needless suffering of adults with ADHD and those with under-developed Executive Function Skills - whether from ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, trauma, addictions, or chronic illnesses. And, you don't need a formal diagnosis to know you need help developing these executive function skills in order to greatly reduce your suffering.
Full Episode Transcript
LBA with Dr B – Episode #079
“Shelf-Help” Can Do More Harm Than Good
Tuesday, June 30, 2020
Today is Episode 79 with Dr B
According to government statistics, last updated in 2018, there are a lot of unhappy people that are suffering in the world. In the U.S. alone:
· 32 million people suffer from anxiety
· 17 million suffer from depression
· Around 12 million suffer from PTSD
And, according to Forbes magazine, the Self-Help industry generates over $11 billion annually. What I find interesting is that many of the self-help books and videos that get purchased sit on the shelf collecting dust. So for today’s podcast, I wanted to explore this phenomenon and help you get curious about what does work and why. How much time do we have? Not much. So let’s get to it.
Interview with Bart starts here.
An episode wouldn’t be complete without celebrating wins, big and small, since wins are such an important part of my philosophy, and a favorite quote of mine.
So, what are you going to celebrate today? Perhaps you participated in my recent training series, that’s certainly a win. Maybe you made a decision that you are done suffering and ready to transform your life; that’s an awesome win. Perhaps you made a commitment to yourself to speak to yourself with loving kindness instead of anger or frustration when things aren’t going well; that’s a huge win.
You get the point; celebrate all of them; big and small. And none of this “half-hearted celebrating”; you’ve got to mean it. Exaggerate your emotions. YES!!!! WOW!! AWESOME!! You want your acknowledgement and celebration to register in your neurology with the power to move you and shift your state. The celebration of your wins is especially important now to help you keep your emotional balance and focus on the fact that good things are happening everyday and there is something good about you to celebrate everyday – even with the serious world events we are all living with or experiencing on a daily basis. Focusing on what’s good or right helps us to gather the energy to take action against what isn’t good or right in the world and do something about it, as well as helping ourselves and those closest to us.
You are a precious child of the universe; and are called a “human being” not a “human doing” for good reason. You don’t have to earn your value; you were born with it. You’re value comes from “who” you are; not what you do. And if you need a place to know that is true, be sure to join the Facebook group, Living Beyond ADHD, so you can be with others who will celebrate yours WINS with you and affirm that you are more than okay as you, the “human being.”
A Favorite Quote:
Ann Voskamp said, “Shame dies when stories are told in safe places.” So, the question I have for you at this point in our journey together is, do you have a safe place to tell your stories to transform your toxic shame and make a fresh start? If you don’t, I hope you will consider joining me in our safe space so you can heal.
If you resonate with the content I share on my show and with me, I encourage you to “act now” and get to the link in the show notes to learn about how you can develop your executive function life skills and transform your life right away. My program is only open for enrollment 2x/year and that time is right now. Enrollment closes this Thursday, July 2, 2020. If you miss the cutoff period by a few hours or so, email me at [email protected] and I’ll see what I can do to get you in. It’s important to act right away because the program starts with Orientation on Monday, July 6, 2020.
If you miss the deadline, it’s another 6 months to wait for open enrollment again.
My mission is to put an end to the needless suffering of adults worldwide that have under-developed executive function life skills, whether that happened to you because of ADHD, chronic depression or anxiety, addictions, trauma or chronic illness; it doesn’t matter. What matters is that there is something that you can do for yourself starting today. That’s the driving force behind everything I do.
Be sure to check out the show notes to learn about other great resources I’ve made available to you. You will find solutions to the challenges you are experiencing, and I would love to help you realize a new freedom, that is…if that’s of interest to you. And definitely make it a priority to join the Facebook group – Living Beyond ADHD – you won’t regret it.
If my podcast show is the first time you’ve been hearing about executive function skills and strategies, you are not alone. If you’re an adult who received a diagnosis of adult ADHD, executive function skills should also have been assessed and discussed with you, in my humble opinion. The odds of having executive function deficits along with ADHD are very high; in fact, almost a given that you will.
That’s about it for today’s episode on “Shelf-Help” Can Do More Harm Than Good and what you can do about it. Listening to every podcast episode I release is a small action step, and something that can help you move your life forward, one episode at a time, if you take action on the steps I include for you. If you just listen and hear the value but don’t take action, you won’t gain the value that’s there for you. It’s kind of like “shelf-help” – you just shelf the information for another time that never comes. Remember, for things to change for the better for you, YOU have to change – which means you need to do your best every day to do something that will lead you in the direction of the transformation you want to see in your life.
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Thanks for listening… Until the next time… Bye for now…
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